Howdy do, Lusi-sprites.
I have always had reservations regarding mods or custom add-ons for games like World of Warcraft and this idea that many people have that certain add-ons are absolutely necessary and mandatory. Some people will simply not allow you to raid with them if you are not using customized raid frames, or add-ons like Deadly Boss Mods to hold your hand through the content. And yes, there are mods to tell you whether or not everyone else is using the desired mods.
There is a flip side to this, of course. Over the years many popular and even unpopular add-ons have made their way into the native UI. This indicates that Blizzard saw a failing in their user interface, saw the solution that users created, and incorporated it into the game. Scrolling Combat Text is a great example of this. That extremely handy mod was rendered obsolete when Blizzard fixed their darn chat boxes to not be, well, stupid. So all of the people using that or any of the other mods from which Blizzard borrowed ideas, were they taking the easy road, or were they just ahead of the curve?
Now that I am playing a healer almost exclusively, I have had to bow to popular opinion and install more mods. It is just too painful to heal without Grid and Clique. I will continue to try to avoid excessive modding, though. You never can quite tell what mods Blizzard will accept and embrace, and which they will put the boots to. Things like Grid, Healbot and Xperl Raid Frames have been around for so long that you would think Blizzard would have incorporated them into the game by now if they were ever going to. Considering that the Loatheb encounter in Naxx is a big “F U” to healers using Healbot, it seems plain that while not banned, some add-ons are seen as unnecessary and extraneous.
As a mage, I have never needed to use DBM to raid, and I would resist anyone telling me to do so. I know how to raid. I do not need my raid leader to control my character by proxy, thank you very much.
If someone thinks it is that important, they are welcome to have five accounts so they can control everyone directly. For my part, I’m going to continue to insist that when I play WoW, I’m the one playing WoW.